imgres-3If you’re like most women you probably spend a lot of time complaining about your weight and body shape. My advice is RELAX. Life is too short… don’t let weight, weigh you down.

It’s not our fault so many of us are at war with our bodies. Society perpetuates female body hatred. It’s all around us. Look at the insane things celebrities do to be thin. Chrissy Teigen, John Legand’s wife, licks the nacho cheese seasoning off of Doritos and puts the chips back in the bag. Jessica Alba squeezed herself into a corset 24/7 for 3 months after giving birth. And let’s not forget the celebs who live on baby food to look red carpet ready. Thank God for Amy Schumer!CZBQ4lLWEAAivLe

Insecurity sells! If we felt fabulous about our bodies we wouldn’t buy Spanx, crash diets (Remember The Cabbage Soup Diet? Yuck!), soul crushing workouts or dangerous, unregulated, quick fix potions that diet-docs and weight loss charlatans try to sell us 24/7 on TV, radio and the internet.

Body hatred is destructive. Disliking your body disconnects you from your physical home and alienates your soul. Negative body image triggers a long list of physical and psychological damage including stress, fatigue, eating disorders and low self-esteem, to mention just a few.

Fortunately, there a number of things you can do right now to combat body hatred and revitalize the relationship between your body and soul. Your body is already beautiful and perfectly amazing. Stop listening to the drum beat of negativity that marketers pound out about your body… so they can take your money!

Here are 5 tips to help bring you body peace:

  1. Focus on all the amazing things your body does. There are 37.2 trillion cells in your body all working together to keep you alive! As long as you are breathing there’s a lot more right than wrong going on.
  1. Pamper yourself. Cook a fabulous meal or take yourself out to lunch. Soak in a hot tub. Go for a long walk in the woods. Your body works hard for you. Give it a break!


  1. STOP your daily dialogue of criticism —”I’m fat!” “Why can’t I lose weight?” “I hate my stomach,” “I’ve got to get thinner,”— and change to the language of kindness. Speak to your body the way you would a loved one. Bodies have feelings too you know.
  1. Pay attention to the messages your body sends. Eat when you’re hungry. Stop when your 80% full, not stuffed. Rest when you’re tired. Move and stretch when your body starts to feel stiff and tight.
  1. Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself the way you would a good friend by caring deeply for your body, mind, heart & spirit. When you care deeply for yourself body shame and dissatisfaction withers and body peace blossoms.


Honestly, if you’re looking to slim down the best thing you can do is erase “weight” from your life equation. What we resist persists which means worrying about your weight turns it into a bigger and bigger issue in your life. Let it go. Focus on being healthy and caring for your body, mind, heart and spirit.

Need support to feel better about your body and self? I’ve been working with women on weight and body issues for decades. I’d love to help you. Click HERE to schedule a FREE consult today. 





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