“Sometimes things become possible if we want them bad enough.”  ― T.S. Eliot

How are you viewing your existence? Do you see your glass as half full, half empty or completely full?

The answer depends on how you feel about yourself and your life.

If you feel stuck and are having trouble creating a life you love you may not feel worthy of happiness. Or your heart may be blocked making it difficult to open up to unlimited joy, love and wisdom. Perhaps you are afraid to go for your dreams or are filled with worry and doubt.

Here’s a suggestion: Make a wish.

Wishes are powerful because they connect you with your ideas and desires. They get you out of your analytical yes, but head and into a creative, curious, childlike space that liberates rather than blocks your energy. This open space is where magic and miracles can happen.

Making a wish is like pushing an enormous play button that starts the process of transforming your dreams into goals and plans so they can become a reality. And you don’t have to wait until your birthday. Give yourself permission to make a wish today. Just follow these 10 easy steps:

1. Dream big!

Be powerful and audacious. Get clear. What do you really want to do or accomplish? Who do you want to be? What wish would set your heart on fire? Where do you want to go? If you could have anything what would it be? It’s your life go for it.

2. Be specific

Think about and articulate exactly what you want. Write it down in detail.

Instead of: “I want to meet a life partner” write: “I want to meet my soul mate, someone who loves me unconditionally, respects me, is gorgeous, fun, romantic and kind and I love being with.” The wish: “I want to write a book” is not as powerful as, “I want to write and publish a self-help book for woman at midlife that’s a bestseller that Oprah loves.” The wish: “I want to travel” is not as effective as: “I want to go to Japan and learn Reiki from a Japanese Master.” Instead of: “I want a successful business,” write: “I want a successful, handcrafted jewelry business that makes $30K a year and allows me to travel to craft fairs and boutiques around the country.”

3. Release negativity

As you start to wish big the “YES, buts” will pop up like weeds choking your dream garden. Root out those counter-intentions germinating beneath the surface. Plant new seeds – self-love, self-confidence, self-compassion – to crowd out the negativity.

Remember, your negative thoughts are not facts. Question them, especially the negative core beliefs that keep you stuck in reverse.

4. Embrace positivity

Believe you are a good person and deserve happiness. See what is possible, wish it for yourself, and believe you can have it.

You’ll increase the odds of making your dreams come true. Research shows that being optimistic and positive is correlated with accomplishment and success. University of Pennsylvania Professor Martin Seligman author of Learned Optimism has shown that looking on the bright side increases luck and happiness and will enable you to thrive and live your best life.

5. Visualize

For the next 21 days visualize your wish coming true. See it happening in your minds eye, and use all your senses. Experience the positive emotions that you associate with the wish.

6. Harness the Law of Attraction

Ask for what you want!

Believe it will come true!

Be open to receive it!


7. Act

Get inspired and take one small step towards your dreams. When you act you tell the Universe that you’re willing, ready and able to take the steps needed to manifest your dreams.

8. Heal, forgive, let go…

Wishing helps you observe how you are seeking happiness and fulfillment. Notice what appears as you connect with your wish. Do you feel deserving? Sometimes past wounds need to be healed before you can grow into your wish.

Forgive yourself and others. It’s one step you can take today towards healing your past and creating a happier present and future.

9. Focus on YOU and your future

Don’t wish for someone else or the past to transform. Wishes don’t depend on other people changing and only work for what hasn’t occurred yet.

10. Have fun

Be playful. Embrace possibilities. Let your wish reflect what you feel you deserve in life, where your heart is, and how much you love yourself. When you accept yourself and your life your cup will overflow with love, joy and abundance and you will manifest your wishes

Finally honor, value and have the courage to redefine your self. You are an amazing soul worthy of love, enjoying life and making a difference in the world.

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